Not seeing from other perspectives

I generally don't know what I am doing to others, but something In me tells me so and so is doing this to you. Accepting this assumption is sure way to make opponents. This gets out of hand when others assume the same thing, you are doing to them and act on it. 

The solution is to observe yourself. You can learn from your activities which assumptions are operative.

There is only three culprits. Humanity have lived long enough to know them. The cock, power, I am better than any body else and no body can be better than me, any one who does, I will show him or her the truth, as I conceive it. The solution to this is find an area of work that you can do better than others and do it. This is a power.

The primary driver of power is desire, we desire to use power to satisfy our needs and aspirations. Differential power entails differential availability of resources. The solution to this is to focus on mutual desire and give up the rest.

The third factor is causally linked to the first  factor. Differential power itself is a cause of aggression. Noticing someone is more powerful than you, immediately inclines you to remove the difference, hence aggression.

It must not be so. You can also increase your power by developing, for instance,  your talent. This is good for you and for society. Healthy competition is good. 

So, develop your talent, be present on now, that is where everything happens. Focus on mutual aspirations, win-win,  and give up the rest and be tough on it,

In the sense stated, mutually aspired and non. Your talk will be clear and shall leave no space for ambiguities or misunderstanding for that matter.