When I am not interested to seduce women, they want to seduce me.
I always thought this applies to women whom we are not compatible, particularly, women who are more of sensing types, in Myers Briggs type indicator, less of intuitive types.
Their approach always has element of pretensions or reluctance to do this, and this is the seeds of future break up. Since it will not work, I say to myself, why try it.
But this may be analogous to waking up for a work, a friend of mine tells me, you don't want to do it, but you need to earn a living and you know it is good for you, in the longer run.
This is also related to general tendency of sensing types to creep, and afterwards, when they recognize what they are doing, that is when their rational mind comes back to work, they say what in the world am I doing? But then a conversation ensues wherein the matter is settled amicably.
To court such women when has to withstand both waves, the initial somewhat unconscious wave, resulting from the tendency of the male not to pursue the female, this cannot be faked, it has to be genuine, and the ensuing realization of what am I doing? By remaining calm and rational in both cases, when can easily get plenty of dates.
We ought to remember this is analogous to when a man wants a woman but the woman does not. The roles are reversed.
When can produce such effect, females pursuing the males, by working on projects in public places, like coffee houses, in an absorbed manner, so that your entire system says I am not interested to pick up a woman now, but interested to get work done, the more this work is something you really to do, the better, even if it is a hobby you are working on, not only for its own sake, but also for the sake of earning living out of it, in the nearer future, or even in the longer run.
The ideas is to absorb your attention on a work that has the potentiality to satisfy you both materially and spiritually.
You may have a job that allows you to earn a living, but you want to do a work that gives you positive energy. If your current jobgives you positive energy, then you don't need to find a hobby and turn it into a career.
You also produce such effects when you are sexually potent but not interested in such activities, like Monday morning, females at this time play the role of a typical male on late Saturday evening.
As far as more intuitive and sensing types, is concerned conversation is not smooth as it is between people of same type; this may incline both of them, at different times that the relationship may not work and hence no need to build it. This, however, is empirical question, not a theoretical one.
After they learn each other, they may make pertinent conclusion about The viability of the relationship.
There is some empirical evidence to suggest the relationship between some intuitive and sensing types is one of the most satisfying relationship, presented by Myers Briggs in her book, gifts differing, even though the relationship is less promising initially.
But you may be inclined to think this will not work again and again. The solution to this is to assume it worked, and ask her to tell you how it worked. Also join this process to brainstorm solutions. As In life, you are bound to find solutions.
Steps
1- Talk about what is relevant, this may be the most embarrassing thing to do, but it will be the most memorable thing to do, the story that she was telling to her friend, about meeting a stranger and hugging and saying nice to meet you, a lot of women say this to each other while you are sitting around; say you are talking about me right, if that seemed to be the case with you. The point is to talk about what is most relevant to your mind at the time.
Some say opinion approach, ask open ended question, first, and then gradually move to more pertinent questions. I think that is mistaken. To talk about what is relevant in step by step manner, and generally remain indifferent to the outcomes, while remaining generally kind, will have favorable first impression impact. Besides that is how human brain works, to comment on what is up, regardless of how we feel as a result of this revelation.
This will also reveal how deeply we are related as human beings. I think one ought to not miss this opportunity; I favor those those who say be truthful but kind, or cocky funny, CF.
2-Practice speaking to women, so that that how you speak to an attractive woman ought to not be significantly different from how you speak to other women. This ought to be a daily practice. Update. I have never thought this will be life changing event, to a friend of mine it was. He just spoke to as many women as possible, not just talking to them, but only talking to them when he has something to say and remaining silent when he has nothing to say. This works perfectly when both of you are sitting next to each other in the bus or waiting the train or the bus and so on . It is even better if you are in party where people hang together and then disperse and then hang with others and then disperse and so on. Under these circumstances, don't pretend or anything just speak of your mind gently and whatever that is going on, focusing where there is mutual attractions, and when you are run out of what talk about about, move on, after asking contacts and good time to call, I course if things work between you and. another woman, it is time to date and move on to more private setting. The main point to remember is that you have to be clear what you want, and then let the mind tell you what to do and then do it, of course while you are diplomatic about it. Use your brain.
A- the point is to talk to women who wan to talk to you as natural as possible, because with these women the question is not mutual attraction, there is attraction, a potential one, of course, the question is how to make that potentiality a reality. To make sure this happens both brains ought to work unimpeded, they will do wondrous. That is why you have to be honest, when you have nothing to say, just say nothing, and do what you think you ought to do, may be get some fresh air. We discussed earlier how the brain moves from one thought to another by moving the body. Besides don't hang on a particular line of story when you run out of it, because it prevents more interesting one to arise. So that there is dynamic aspect to the conversation. It has never boring.
There is something new coming you every now and then. It will require some courage to move into different levels, because doing so initially is uncomfortable, but soon you will feel comfortable, and that is what it is all about, moving to more and more closeness and understanding.
B- The main point to remember is to start and keep the momentum so that they you will overcome the initial inertia that inclines you to do nothing.
3- Frequent places where you are more likely to meet women who are as eager as you are to meet them, ideally on daily basis or weekly basis. The more you frequent these places, the better the chances.
I always thought this applies to women whom we are not compatible, particularly, women who are more of sensing types, in Myers Briggs type indicator, less of intuitive types.
Their approach always has element of pretensions or reluctance to do this, and this is the seeds of future break up. Since it will not work, I say to myself, why try it.
But this may be analogous to waking up for a work, a friend of mine tells me, you don't want to do it, but you need to earn a living and you know it is good for you, in the longer run.
This is also related to general tendency of sensing types to creep, and afterwards, when they recognize what they are doing, that is when their rational mind comes back to work, they say what in the world am I doing? But then a conversation ensues wherein the matter is settled amicably.
To court such women when has to withstand both waves, the initial somewhat unconscious wave, resulting from the tendency of the male not to pursue the female, this cannot be faked, it has to be genuine, and the ensuing realization of what am I doing? By remaining calm and rational in both cases, when can easily get plenty of dates.
We ought to remember this is analogous to when a man wants a woman but the woman does not. The roles are reversed.
When can produce such effect, females pursuing the males, by working on projects in public places, like coffee houses, in an absorbed manner, so that your entire system says I am not interested to pick up a woman now, but interested to get work done, the more this work is something you really to do, the better, even if it is a hobby you are working on, not only for its own sake, but also for the sake of earning living out of it, in the nearer future, or even in the longer run.
The ideas is to absorb your attention on a work that has the potentiality to satisfy you both materially and spiritually.
You may have a job that allows you to earn a living, but you want to do a work that gives you positive energy. If your current jobgives you positive energy, then you don't need to find a hobby and turn it into a career.
You also produce such effects when you are sexually potent but not interested in such activities, like Monday morning, females at this time play the role of a typical male on late Saturday evening.
As far as more intuitive and sensing types, is concerned conversation is not smooth as it is between people of same type; this may incline both of them, at different times that the relationship may not work and hence no need to build it. This, however, is empirical question, not a theoretical one.
After they learn each other, they may make pertinent conclusion about The viability of the relationship.
There is some empirical evidence to suggest the relationship between some intuitive and sensing types is one of the most satisfying relationship, presented by Myers Briggs in her book, gifts differing, even though the relationship is less promising initially.
But you may be inclined to think this will not work again and again. The solution to this is to assume it worked, and ask her to tell you how it worked. Also join this process to brainstorm solutions. As In life, you are bound to find solutions.
Steps
1- Talk about what is relevant, this may be the most embarrassing thing to do, but it will be the most memorable thing to do, the story that she was telling to her friend, about meeting a stranger and hugging and saying nice to meet you, a lot of women say this to each other while you are sitting around; say you are talking about me right, if that seemed to be the case with you. The point is to talk about what is most relevant to your mind at the time.
Some say opinion approach, ask open ended question, first, and then gradually move to more pertinent questions. I think that is mistaken. To talk about what is relevant in step by step manner, and generally remain indifferent to the outcomes, while remaining generally kind, will have favorable first impression impact. Besides that is how human brain works, to comment on what is up, regardless of how we feel as a result of this revelation.
This will also reveal how deeply we are related as human beings. I think one ought to not miss this opportunity; I favor those those who say be truthful but kind, or cocky funny, CF.
2-Practice speaking to women, so that that how you speak to an attractive woman ought to not be significantly different from how you speak to other women. This ought to be a daily practice. Update. I have never thought this will be life changing event, to a friend of mine it was. He just spoke to as many women as possible, not just talking to them, but only talking to them when he has something to say and remaining silent when he has nothing to say. This works perfectly when both of you are sitting next to each other in the bus or waiting the train or the bus and so on . It is even better if you are in party where people hang together and then disperse and then hang with others and then disperse and so on. Under these circumstances, don't pretend or anything just speak of your mind gently and whatever that is going on, focusing where there is mutual attractions, and when you are run out of what talk about about, move on, after asking contacts and good time to call, I course if things work between you and. another woman, it is time to date and move on to more private setting. The main point to remember is that you have to be clear what you want, and then let the mind tell you what to do and then do it, of course while you are diplomatic about it. Use your brain.
A- the point is to talk to women who wan to talk to you as natural as possible, because with these women the question is not mutual attraction, there is attraction, a potential one, of course, the question is how to make that potentiality a reality. To make sure this happens both brains ought to work unimpeded, they will do wondrous. That is why you have to be honest, when you have nothing to say, just say nothing, and do what you think you ought to do, may be get some fresh air. We discussed earlier how the brain moves from one thought to another by moving the body. Besides don't hang on a particular line of story when you run out of it, because it prevents more interesting one to arise. So that there is dynamic aspect to the conversation. It has never boring.
There is something new coming you every now and then. It will require some courage to move into different levels, because doing so initially is uncomfortable, but soon you will feel comfortable, and that is what it is all about, moving to more and more closeness and understanding.
B- The main point to remember is to start and keep the momentum so that they you will overcome the initial inertia that inclines you to do nothing.
3- Frequent places where you are more likely to meet women who are as eager as you are to meet them, ideally on daily basis or weekly basis. The more you frequent these places, the better the chances.
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